Surprises are a normal part of life. As much as we like to think that we’re in control of our lives, the fact is, we’re not. We’re in control of such a small fraction of it! So, it’s only natural for things to blindside you. Whether it’s the small, everyday type of events – like getting cut off while driving, or forgetting your wallet at the grocery store, or showing up 15 minutes late to your appointment. Or the more serious life happenings, such as getting laid off from work, a relationship breakup, or getting sick. No matter the severity, when unexpected difficulties arise it can be stressful or downright unbearable.
It’s especially during these times that we have to take some time and space to ourselves, and take care of our needs. We all deal with our needs in different ways, so I don’t expect this to be an exhaustive list, but it’s a start. Hey, let’s face it, tough times, especially when we are not prepared, can knock the wind out of us. But It’s how you deal with these times that can make all the difference. Without further ado, here’s a few ways to deal with the unexpected.
1. Release Those Emotions!
I’m sure we’re all aware of this, but I’ll say it for the people in the back: suppressing and/or ignoring your emotions is totally unhealthy! This may even negatively affect your gut health. In order to process and move past what we’re feeling, we have to first feel what emotions we’re experiencing.
We may have grown up in environments that taught us that expressing anger or sadness is a sign of weakness. But we must overcome those internalized messages. Anger and sadness and any other emotion is only natural. So allow yourself to feel sad, angry, or whatever else is on your heart. When you do that, you’ll be in a more stable place to deal with your reality.
2. Confide in Loved Ones
Part of the grounding process is talking about what’s going on in your life. The easiest way to do that is to talk to the ones closest to you. Finding people who you know won’t judge you for what you’re feeling or experiencing is key to finding your feet when your entire world is turned upside down.
Talking helps you process. Processing help you reach a clearer state of mind where you can make a plan of action. Take it slow. Give it time, and you’ll get there.
3. Keep Your Attitude in Check
It’s easy to fall into a downward spiral when life knocks you out with a bag of lemons. But once you’ve given yourself time to process all your feelings, realize you have the power to choose how you want to move forward. A positive attitude almost always makes things easier for you. Every situation can be interpreted in multiple perspectives. Make sure you check yourself and see if you’re approaching every situation with an attitude and perspective that’ll serve you the best.
4. Accept the Change
This is possibly the hardest part of the entire process: acceptance. You have to allow yourself to accept what has happened in order to truly move on. This may take time, but realize acceptance will provide you with freedom. Change is only a natural part of life. Once you truly accept what has happened, you’ll be able to direct all your focus and energy to the next steps in your life. Focus on the things you enjoy and put some effort into being internally balanced, such as drinking Health-Ade kombucha.